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trueorfalsefg.jpgIt's Christmas Eve and we need a heartwarming story.

Although I write a humor blog these days and live in New York City, I once was an elementary school teacher in a rural area. This is one of my best memories from those days. It's not funny or irreverent, as these posts tend to be, but maybe it helps explain why I'm Not Bitter . .

Sometimes you actually do something good, something that changes things.

My first year as a teacher (I only lasted two years, but that's another story), I had a kid in my fourth grade class named Jimmy. One of the first things that Jimmy told me was that he was "dumb." That startled me a bit, and when I questioned him, he elaborated: everyone knew he was dumb, he had always been dumb, and he had even been left back in the third grade. Very Forrest Gump.

And yet. Something about this kid got under my skin. First of all, I knew — just knew — that he wasn't unintelligent. (I discourage the use of the word "dumb" in any event, boys and girls). I didn't care what the IQ test indicated, or what anybody else said, or how many grades he had repeated.

For one thing, he had asked me a question — the question, actually — the question that has no answer. Which is: If God made everything, who made God? I told him that he should talk to someone at his church, but come on, a kid who's "dumb" doesn't ask something like that in the first place.

There were other signs, too, but I had 37 other kids in the class (really!) and didn't have time to figure out what was wrong.

Until one day, a chain of events was set off that would explain it all . . .

No books at the inn:
The science books didn't arrive. Thirty-eight kids, no text books, the education system sucked then too. Without books, I had to read the material to the class from the teacher's manual and discuss it with them.

Afterwards, I gave a simple True or False test. T or F. And guess what, Jimmy answered every single question correctly. 100%. Same story the next time. And the time after that. He was amazed. The other kids were amazed. One teacher even suggested that he had a 50/50 shot each time, and he was just being lucky! But when I questioned him about the material, he had understood it very well. Better than I did, actually, since science is not my strong suit. I was now determined to solve this mystery. (It is not for nothing that I ended up producing Nancy Drew years later.)

The story was simply this: Jimmy wore glasses, very strong glasses  — but he hadn't always had them. In fact, when he started school, he could hardly see the words on a page, much les. read them. It was only because he was so bright (which a follow-up test showed) that he learned to read at all - after he got his glasses. But by then he was hopelessly behind, and was thought to be slow." When he got to my class, he was reading about a year or so below grade level, and couldn't have handled the science book, although he had no trouble at all with the concepts.

But he had bought into the idea that he was dumb, that he couldn't learn, and this had become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Looking back, it's surprising that no one had figured this out. But no one had. Anyway,
once I knew what was going on, I contacted his parents, who arranged for tutoring to get him up to speed. By the end of the term, he was reading at grade level, and the next year, he did very well. Case Closed.

One of my most prized possessions is a letter from his father telling me that I changed the course of his son's life. Well, a little bit of luck didn't hurt either, but still. When I get down on myself for all the mistakes I make (and I make more mistakes per square inch than anyone I know), I think about this episode in my life, and figure that hey, I'm not as dumb as I look . . .

HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYBODY! Especially to Jimmy, wherever you are.

 

This story appeared in www.littlefoureyes.com
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0 # bluzdude 2009-12-23 10:16
Great story! How lucky for the boy that he had a teacher that paid attention and actually gave a damn!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2009-12-23 16:12
Thanks, bluzdude. The problem was that paying that much attention was so difficult that I only lasted two years. Teaching is a really hard job and anyone who does it well for any length of time is a saint in my book.
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0 # Lou 2009-12-23 21:56
your conscientious concern improved the quality of a life - good for you, Pat. Great story!!!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2009-12-24 09:16
Lou V: Thanks for the comment. I wasn't going to run this story because it's not like the usual posts, but hey, it's that season and we all need the cockles of our hearts warmed. What exactly are cockles anyway? Or do I want to know?
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0 # Diana 2009-12-24 08:30
Wait, did I hear a bell ring on my Christmas tree? Does that mean an angel gets their wings or that a teacher and their student connect? No matter. Pat I give you an A+!
A PC Happy Holiday to all in blogdom!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2009-12-24 09:23
An angel absolutely does get its (do angels have a gender?) wings but if you're hearing bells, then you might want to cut back on the egg nog, although I, for one, do NOT intend to. Thanks for the A+. I needed that.
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0 # Cris 2009-12-24 20:54
Very touching story! You went the extra mile and made a difference in his life....wonder where he is now? Does he read your blog? You never know....
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0 # Richard 2009-12-24 21:25
Loved the Jimmy story- Have a wonderful Christmas.
Wish you were here with us!
Richard and Hank
Sent from The Queen Mary somewhere in the Caribbean . . .
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0 # Gary 2009-12-27 13:23
Hi Pat,
What a great story. Even better because it's true. I never knew you
were a teacher, but I should have known, because you've taught me a lot
over the years.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
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0 # philosophy-of-love 2010-01-22 03:21
I like his movie....
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-02-23 12:47
The thing is that Forrest Gump WAS actually mentally challenged. Some people just think they are and never get past that.
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0 # Kim 2010-02-02 09:57
Hi Pat...
Love the Jimmy story...I taught Kindergarten for 15 years and have so many "Jimmy" stories!Being a teacher is a very 'Important" Job (I won't say hard) Any person traveling through life 'touches' so many others and make little 'life changing' differences along the way!It's like you said a class of 37 children in one place for 180 days per year makes your chances more likely and more often! I taught approximately 350 kids in the 15 years and I think I even kept a journal for a while of all the touching, funny 'things' that occured in Mrs. Zarro's Teddy Bear Kindergarten Class I should find it and publish it! Believe it or not,between class lists, address books, Christmas Cards lists, facebook, etc., I still keep in touch with many of my Kindergarteners and their parents from 1986! Loved that job I made a dent and a difference to many and they to me as well!
You are the BEST and being a Teacher even if only for 2 years definitely added to why you are NOT BITTER!
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0 # Pat 2010-02-02 10:19
Thanks for your great comment, Kim. A number of people have offered suggestions about why I'm not bitter, including my sense of humor and that I'm Italian (definitely a factor!), but no one has ever mentioned this. Teaching was a wonderful experience for me, and I won't forgot it. Someday, people will figure out how important teaching is, and start giving teachers the praise they deserve. It kind of galls me (that's anger not bitterness!) that jobs in the financial sector pay obscene amounts of money for basically moving around money, when teachers, the good ones, get so little for moving hearts and minds. If we paid more, in money and respect, we'd attract more good teachers. Of course it's great that some people, like you, do it out of love, but a little extra cash wouldn't hurt.
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