Mon 16 Nov 2009 |
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| Why do these tiny Turkish bowls remind me of the Italian superstar Sophia Loren?
She gave this advice when interviewed about a high-class heist that relieved her of many valuable "things" — like furs and jewels. And yes, those things surely couldn't have loved her back. But I have always felt, deep in my heart, that this sentiment could also apply to certain boyfriends and other assorted louses who shall remain nameless. You know what I mean. Be that as it may, you must be wondering why I am so attached to these colorful little two-inch ceramic bowls. Well, I can give you some very practical reasons, and I can rationalize as usual from here to Sunday (it's now Monday), but the honest answer is "I don't know." Why do we love anything? Anybody? The heart, as Woody Allen once famously said, has its reasons. Athough one reporter rather sagely suggested that the particular organ in question, in regard to Woody's relationship with Soon Yi, was something other than the heart. Let's not go there . . . Back, instead, to the bowls . . .I caught sight of these cuties during a shore excursion to Ephesus when we were on a Mediterranean cruise. There were dozens of them on the little stand just outside the ship, but we were sure they'd be cheaper if we poked around in one of the many tourist traps in town, where, we had been advised, one is advised to bargain — hard. Well, they turned out to be cheaper at the little stand. Who knew. Anyway, I ended up with eight of them, but gave away four and managed to lose one, so I had only three left. The other night, I was serving some Prosecco and olives to a friend who came over for drinks (how did a little girl like me from Brooklyn get this sophisticated?) when she showed me pictures of a trip to Turkey, and I asked her to please get me some more of the bowls. She seemed puzzled. I mean, they're inexpensive things, possibly made in China (not). I've even saw them last year in the Christmas shops at Grand Central Station, where they were not so inexpensive. But, being a sport, she promised to look out for them on her next trip. She doesn't have to! The next morning (the next morning!) what do I see in the Home section of the Times but a picture of these very same teeny Turkish delights, with a number to call. Yes, yes, they're more expensive than the ones I bought in Ephesus, although less pricey than in the Christmas shops, but I wanted them and got three more! Here's why:
They're cute.
And they're extremely useful. No, really. I use them for:
Those things make sense and need no explanation. But the bowls? Well, I can't really explain it, but in my heart I know I'm right. There are things, objects, some of no great monetary value, that make you happy. Who knows why. And why do we have to know? Besides, I have now been validated in this love — by no less than The New York Times. Be still my heart. And in case you think I'm carrying this sophisticated thing too far, after the olives and the Italian version of champagne my friend and I had pizza for dinner and drank coke with our slices. I love those things too.
Sophia is not available at any price.
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NO LAUGHING MATTER:
Did Demi Moore overdose
on laughing gas??
That's what's being reported
to those of us at:
A DEVOUT COWARD
GOES TO THE DENTIST
Have you seen The Artist? Seeing it mentioned at
The Golden Globes reminded me that that not ALL movies are
Incredibly Loud!
Do NOT Google Santorum.
I warned you . . .
I did it!
I actually got that
LITTLE BLACK DRESS!
How hard was it?
Click on the link above.
I also got my iPhone.
It's great.
Thank you Steve Jobs
Wherever you are.
Just as I posted I WAS THE GIRL PHANTOM, I found a website called The Ghost Who Blogs about The Phantom comics:
http://falkonthewildside.blogspot.com
Writing Comics. . .
Was a small but wonderful part of my checkered career, and doing a post about it brought back a lot of great memories. If you know any other women in NYC who wrote — or are writing — comics, tell me how to get in touch with them.
I'm on a watching-old-movies kick these days.
Great way to lose yourself.
If you're lucky, you'll never be found.
REVIEWS TO PERUSE
I'm All Right, Jack:
"Jack" is not just all right, it's totally delightful and fresh as a daisy after all these years (made in 1959), with Sellers, although not technically the lead, giving the brilliant performance that launched him as an international star. He plays an all-too-zealous union leader and father of a blonde bombshell who falls for Stanley, the British Upper Class Twit played, also to perfection, by Ian Carmichael, who you might remember from the Lord Peter Wimsey series. The makeout scenes between the the Twit and the Bombshell are priceless. But what is Stanley doing in this working class atmosphere anyway? Working. And too well at that. Forced by financial circumstances too dreary to discuss, he gets a job in his uncle's factory and messes things up for the other workers by, well, working, and thus making his fellow employees look bad. The film takes a big shot at unions — but also at management: they are manipulating white-collar thieves who'll do anything for a buck. Or a pound. Except for the ones, like Major Hitchcock, played by Terry Thomas, who are just plain lazy and inept. Needless to say, Stanley foils everybody's plans, labor and management alike, to my great joy and delight. Oh, and on top of everything else, Margaret Rutherford plays dotty dowager Aunt Dolly. Delicious!
The Big Lebowski:
What can you say that hasn't been said before: brilliant, inspired, with some of the most memorable lines ever to come out of a movie, the most quoted being "The Dude abides." Oh yes. For anyone who hasn't yet seen the film, and it's now out in a special Blu-Ray edition if that floats your bowling ball. The Dude in question, played to perfection by Jeff Bridges, is an out-of-work pothead who is roughed up and has his rug destroyed by some thugs mistaking him for another, bigger, Lebowski. The Dude is really upset about this because, man, "that rug really tied the room together," which The Dude says with all seriousness and not a trace of irony, a great comic touch considering the condition his condition is in. Oh, and besides "Just Dropped In," all the music is perfect for the film. The plot, according to Wikipedia, which has been known to be wrong, is "loosely based on Raymond chandler's novel, The Big Sleep." Could be. But who cares. It involves a bowling competition, "the occasional acid flashback," a trophy wife, a group of German nihilists, a kidnapping gone awry, a mad millionaire and his lackey, in another great performance by Philip Seymour Hoffman. Actually, they're all great performances. Never a fan of John Goodman before or since, he is brilliant in this film. And so are John Turturro, overacting his little heart out, Steve Buscemi in a nerdy, needy role that makes you marvel at his star turn in Boardwalk Empire, and even the actors in the smaller parts, especially Julianne Moore and Sam Elliott. Elliott plays The Stranger (God? Everyman? The part of us that roots for the bad boy?) who elicits from Bridges the immortal words, "The Dude abides." Which prompts The Stranger to comment to the audience: "Don't know about you but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' 'er easy for all us sinners. Shoosh. I sure hope he makes the finals." We'll never know about the bowling trophy because there's never been a sequel to this 1998 film by the great Coen Brothers, and I hope there never will be. It just abides, as all great films do.
Prince of the City:
Okay, the criticisms of this movie are not totally unfounded: it's too long, and Treat Williams may have overacted a bit, although I found him so deliciously charming I couldn't care less, and there's one part concerning the Jerry Orbach character I just didn't understand. But get over it, The New Yorker, this is one powerful movie. And yes, Dog Day Afternoon it isn't, but what it? The DVD has a great special feature with Williams (I so want to call him Treat) and Sidney (what the hell: I once made a meatloaf sandwich for the man) that explains a lot about filmmaking in general and this movie in particular. Also, Sidney's views on good and evil, and how things are not so black and white as you think. I loved it.
Bad Day At Black Rock:
Recommended on TCM by Robert Osbourne as a film he originally had no interest in seeing, then loved it, and by Alex Baldwin, who pointed out the great actors in the cast, including Lee Marvin, Ernest Brognine and Dean Jagger. Well, after all that, I had to like it, right? I did. A lot. It was a Good Day On My Couch.
Behind the Scenes Stuff: Spencer Tracey was off drinking and wouldn't commit to the film until the producers (who wanted him desperately) told him that they had Alan Ladd, at which point Tracey grabbed it. He was perfect for the part, wearing a dark suit and tie the entire time in a western setting, pulling it off perfectly. Other than that "fashion statement," the film makes a strong case against racism: the hatred of the Japanese during WW2. See it.
Song of The Thin Man:
I usually like these frothy, silly, suave, utter unrealistic films from the 30s and 40s, with William Powell and Myrna Loy as the couple we'd all like to be — if only we had the looks, brains, money, a huge capacity for drinking and a dog like Asta. But this one was a stinker, rather than a stinger, or maybe a sinker, because it turned out to be the last, not to mention the least, in the series. Watch any of the others four sequels, but not this one: Even the pooch jumped the shark.
The Children's Hour:
It had its moments, and just looking at Audrey Hepburn makes life worth living, but mostly I kept thinking that the play, by Lillian Hellman, was so much better. It's about two young women runing a school for girls, who are accused by a hateful little brat of being (GASP!) lesbians. And although the closest we get in this 1961 production to using that actual term is the word "unnatural," it's enough to ruin their lives. A young Shirley McClaine is worth seeing in this, and James Garner, and Audrey Hepburn is, well, Audrey Hepburn. The rumor of the love that dare not speak its name is totally untrue — or is it? And I'll say no more, because you should see the movie for yourself, imperfect as it may be, as is Life Itself.
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It's this: I love these bowls, even though I really and truly believe the great Sophia's wise words, "Never love anything that can't love you back."
Sorry, Sophia, but I do love a few other inanimate objects which, sad to say, can't love me back. My little stuffed moose, Fleischman, my silver mesh wedding shoes which are now used as bookends because I will never wear those beautiful but painful things ever again (it hurts just to look at them, but in a good way), and a few pieces of jewelry because diamonds, if not exactly a girl's best friend, truly don't lose their shape in the end. And if I had a pink boa like yours, I might even love that, too.





Comments
Funny, huh?
My red Ibanez guitar (which I cannot play) because it looks so good sitting there on its stand.
My 20-some year old Coke glass for my morning Diet Coke because it has a line on it that makes a perfect fill-to mark.
My dishes that I got in 1984 when I moved out of the house for the first time because that was my first purchase of something that pointed me towards independence.
My photos with Joan Jett because that was such a fun time in my life. (and no, they weren't THOSE kinds of pictures.
My new HDTV, because "Survivor" (as well as everything else) just looks so darned amazing on it. Plus it should compensate for failing vision. And hearing. Can't help me with comprehension though...
None of these love me back either, but that's OK. Neither has Jamie Lee Curtis, but that for the last 30 years, hasn't stopped me.
Thanks for the comment.
I was going to ask the guys to join in with lists of their favorite things ? and you've done just that. Love your list, and your reasoning: objects that mark your independence or remind you of a fun time in your life.
My own list really could have been a lot longer. I was making the point, via the little bowls, that you can really love something that isn't actually "valuable" in a monetary sense, in a time when everything is about money, money, money and more money.
About Jamie Lee Curtis: she's not my type, but I totally get it. Sean Connery hasn't called for years. Or ever. One lives in hope.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2hWg6lTzR2I
We love things not only for their obvious beauty but also for the memories that are attached to them - whether it be a person, a moment, or a subsequent moment that defines the object we cherish.
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