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ARREST THAT WOMAN!
Written by Pat Fortunato   
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Yours truly going mano a mano with two armed security guards in the Emergency Room at New York Hospital.

Here's how it went down:

My husband, who, unlike me, is pretty stoic about pain, was in serious pain. We managed to get to the Emergency Room, and harder still, get admitted inside, where he was put on a gurney in a hallway and pretty much  abandoned. He was writhing and moaning; I was helplessly standing by, hyperventilating.

After watching this for a few minutes, I made my move. I walked over to the first doctor I saw, who was busy on a computer and didn't take kindly to the interruption. Mind you, I had already made a scene just to get us admitted, but had assumed (silly me) that once we had reached the inner sanctum, Lou would be looked after.

So now I had to deal with an overworked, exhausted doctor who basically told me to wait my turn. Hello? EARTH TO DOCTOR: Does the term "Lioness" mean anything to you? I took a deep breath and explained the situation, staying as calm as I could, considering that I was hysterical.

Unmoved, he told me that my husband's name wasn't even up on the computer yet, whereupon I told him precisely what he could do with the computer. I probably added a few other well chosen words, but who remembers. Anyway in what seemed like seconds,  two guards, one short and one tall, rushed in to apprehend me, now to be known as The Mad Woman Of The E.R.  . .  .

And there I was
, all five feet two of the least threatening-looking person these guards had ever seen at New York Hospital, or any place else for that matter.  I guess they didn't know that you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, but then, I was the one in the publishing business, not them.

They looked me over, then looked around wondering if they had the right person, looked up (and down) at each other, and then back at me. I politely told them what had happened and apologized for my less than ladylike language. The smaller one, who seemed to be in charge, stuttered and stammered, but finally said that they had to escort me out. Pronto.

I wasn't going anywhere. The guards and I went back and forth for a while, but let's face it, I had the upper hand: they were still in shock and I was on adrenalin.

When I saw that Lou was indeed being treated (strange, but people were suddenly starting to pay attention to him now), I agreed to leave -on the condition that they would let me back in a half hour. I actually made the shorter one look me in the eye and promise me they would do this. He accepted my terms, because by now he, unlike the doctor, had gotten the memo:
Don't mess with a lioness.

The story has a happy ending: although Lou was diagnosed with kidney stones (Ouch!) he was treated with painkillers right then, and later had a procedure that successfully ended the episode. Whew.

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Oh, and they let me back in the ER in 33 minutes, but who's counting, where I saw that things were under control and apologized to the doctor, who more or less shrugged it off. I'm sure he's heard worse.

So I guess that it's true what they say: The squeaky wheel does get the oil, even when your squeak is worse than your bite.

But what I did in this case is something you should not try at home. It must be done under medical supervision, in a crowded emergency room (is there any other kind?) and executed with a lot of attitude, New York style.

It also brings new meaning  — and poignancy  — to the phrase:
"I've been kicked out of better places than this . . . ."


UPDATE SEPTEMBER 14, 2010
Well, I wasn't kicked out of the ER this time, but I almost wish I had been.
We waited in a hallway for  11 hours to get my mom checked out, admitted, and into a room after a bad fall which fractured a bone in her neck, an injury that can be quite serious.
She's being well cared for, and I'm grateful for that.
But I still don't get why the ER experience has to be so demoralizing. Any thoughts?



 
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0 # Diana 2010-06-01 03:30
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Obviously those guards had no idea they were dealing with a true N.Y. Princess (see April's "Princess and Proud of it").
They also don't know that a lifetime in publishing teaches you never to take no for an answer.
And lastly, they didn't take time to notice that you really do look good in orange (see May's "I Look Good in Orange").
I hope you gave them your card, so they could read your blog and avoid this unpleasantness in the future.
Di
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-01 03:43
Do you think they read? Or care about my fashion choices? Well, no matter. They weren't bad guys, and they got the point that I wasn't going to take no for answer.
What with all the excitement, I forgot to give them my card (NEVER forget to give out your card: you paid good money for that!) but I don't really want to return to the scene of the crime to do that.
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0 # Gary Fortunato 2010-06-01 04:01
Obviously these guards and one doctor were oblivious to the three "Nevers" in life...never draw to an inside straight...never start a ground war in Southeast Asia and never ever tell a Fortunato they cant do something or to back off...they just dont know what they,re in for!!!!!!!!!!!! !!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-01 06:19
I don't even know what an inside straight is, although I promise I'll never draw to one, and will never start a war in Southeast Asia or any place else. But I remember what you said once that if you Google "stubborn" the first entry will be "Fortunato." I'd prefer to think of it as "tenacity," but what the hell.
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0 # Elf 2010-06-01 06:01
You go girl! Our hospitals are so third-world now, you've got to have a lioness on your side to survive.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-01 06:21
You're so right. Never go in alone — and if possible, take a lioness (or a princess) to stick up for you.
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0 # nothingprofound 2010-06-02 03:31
I had a similar experience with my daughter in our local ER. She was writhing in unbearable pain due to a gallstone attack, crying and screaming in agony, and the only attention she got was a nurse telling her to "Pipe Down." Fortunately, there was a very sweet doctor on duty, who responded immediately to my demands for immediate attention. Otherwise I probably would've wound up being escorted out of the building in a gag and straitjacket.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-02 05:43
I've heard horror stories of nurses telling women in labor that they've had their fun, now it's time to pay! Really! This was a long time ago, and now we sue over less than that. But still. Things in the ER haven't improved much. Your daughter was lucky to have you. I'll say it again: Don't go in alone!
Thanks for your comment.
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0 # Gary Poole 2010-06-02 08:28
I am sooo proud of you. If I ever have the displeasure of having to go to an
ER, I want you with me. I'll fly you down. There's no way they will have seen me by the time your flight gets here, so you'll have plenty of time to get your Fortunato up. Go, girl!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-02 10:07
Of course, I'll have to fight with the airline to get a last-minute ticket, but what the hell, for you . . .
You'd never know that I am a person who hates confrontation, would you? It's just that a princess has to do what a princess has to do.
Hope you never need my services on this!
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0 # lisleman 2010-06-03 17:43
rules do need to be broken at times.
I've heard that kidney stones are extremely painful and can just drop anyone to the floor. Wish you husband the best.
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0 # number 4 2010-06-04 03:10
Probably another episode we were not informed of until a week after, he is so good at that......always a treat in the ER.........you go girl!!!!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2010-06-04 03:22
Dear #4 and Lisleman: This happened a while back ? I just wrote about it now.
Lou is fine, and I haven't gotten into (this sort of) trouble since.
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0 # That Guy 2010-10-05 19:45
here is a great article about another woman's experiences with health care outside of the USA www.goeringo.com/global-outings/europe/urg-ncia-in-portugal.html
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0 # Pat 2010-10-06 10:45
Everyone in the U.S. should read this article.
Read, and weep.
This woman got excellent care in Portugal, where she didn't even speak the language, after waiting all of 10 minutes in the ER.
Meanwhile, while you're home, here's the health care plan: don't get sick, and if you do, die fast.
Sorry to sound so . . . bitter, but our health care system is a disgrace.
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