Can Children's Books Ruin Our Lives?
Written by Pat Fortunato   
Thursday, 23 June 2011 08:49

 

Can WHAT do WHAT?

WHAT COULD  BE WRONG WITH CHILDREN'S BOOKS?

LittleEngineAm I saying that Pat The Bunny (no relation) can warp young minds, or that the Little Engine that Could shouldn't have?

Well, I've just been to a play, The Misanthrope, that led me to think that.
FYI: According to my trusty dictionary on my trusty I-Mac, a misanthrope is: a person who dislikes humankind and avoids human society.

In case you didn't happen to catch this play at Drew University . . . with a fine cast, gorgeous costumes and one very hunky guy . . . it's about a misanthrope (duh), and how he deals (horribly) with a society that is full of hypocrisy, lying, scheming, and malicious gossip. People, in short, behaving badly. The way things are today. Except that this play was written in the 17th century and first performed in 1666.

MisanthropePlaybook

The lead character in the play wasn't born such a crank, and neither were all those grouches you know today. Misanthropes generally start out eagerly embracing the world and end up desperately wanting to flee from it.

And believe it or not, that's where children's books come in . . .

As a writer, editor, and producer of a lot of Kid Lit, as we in the biz liked to call it, I know too well that children's books give you the impression that life is always warm and fuzzy,

MooseMuffinIt's a world full of cute little curious puppies, big yellow birds who want to be your friend, adorable mice (and moose) who get cookies (or muffins) and where saying goodnight to the moon solves everything. These books make you think that all adults are there to help, that everything turns out okay in the end, and that life is . . . fair.

Then you grow up.

You stop reading children's books, and discover a world that isn't what it was cracked up to be. In fact, no matter what you do, how well you behave, how hard you try, or how strong you build your house, sometimes the big bad wolf IS at the door. I'm sorry to be the one to break this to you.

And maybe the difference between the idealistic world of children's books and the (Gasp!) real world is so great that it makes you, dare I say it. . .bitter? And that is the first step to becoming a card-carrying misanthrope.

Misanthropy goes way back but children's books don't.

Wait a minute! They didn't have many children's books in 1666, when the playwright Moliere was addressing this question. Certainly not in the time of Plato (or was is Aristotle?), who lamented about how coarsened and perverse society had become —compared to the days of his youth.

Spoiler Alert: There were no Good Old Days.

AngryCavemanOnce upon a time there was probably a cave drawing out there depicting a misanthrope waving this club in utter disgust at the state of (cave)mankind. I see Bill Maher in the movie role.

The thing is, people tend to be more idealistic when they're young, and then become more cynical as they age. It's always been so. Therefore, my theory has been shot to hell.

Children's Books Are Innocent After All!

Whew! The cuddly creatures of our beloved children's books aren't the real culprits and they can live happily ever after, after all. Turning curmurgeonly is simply a result of growing up, which happens, sooner or later,  to us all. And think about it, have you ever known a young curmudgeon?

I'm so glad it's not children's books and their unending cheeriness that has caused this problem. I'd hate to see these delightful books go all Bambi Meets Godzilla or Mr. Bill. Oh noooo!.

In fact, I've often thought about how nice it would be to live in a children's book, with frizzy-haired teachers and their magic busses (we could ride off to the chocolate factory all the time), and I'd have that elephant who's faithful 100 % as my new BFF.

But since that's not going to happen any time soon, and because we do have to grow up sooner or latter, are we all doomed to a misanthropic existence? Do we all have to become. . . bitter?

No, not really. As the friend of The Misanthrope in the play explains, and I paraphrase his elegant rhyming verse: Yes. People can be real rat bastards, but that's the way it is. Suck it up and enjoy yourself. It's no fun being lonely.

Or, god forefend, bitter!

I was tempted to change the name of the blog, but somehow,
I Can't Believe I'm Not Misanthropic
just doesn't have the right ring to it. . . .

 

And Now, Boys And Girls
I'd like to hear about your favorite children's books.
(Mine was a Little Golden Book called Tuffy The Tugboat.)

 
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0 # Aaron Bias 2011-06-23 13:05
I believe that's "Scuffy". I have to go with "The Cat in the Hat", although "Where the Wild Things Are" is a strong contender. I also strongly recommend (from my son's library) "The Robots are coming and other poems" by Andy Rash.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-06-23 15:09
You're right, Aaron, it's Scruffy The Tugboat from Little Golden Books. But I remember a Tuffy from my childhood. I've tried to find it with no success, but I think it was a cheap version by some unknown publisher. Either that, or I was hallucinating even back then! Wish I had a copy . . .
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0 # Lucy 2011-06-25 12:30
Where the Wild Things Are! Loved it.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-06-25 13:19
That's been made into a movie and even an opera! Didn't see either, but loved the book.
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+1 # Alex 2011-06-25 13:00
Wow. Where do I begin? Okay, Part 1: I do not remember my favorite book from childhood. But I do remember the wonderful feeling of happy endings and soft fuzzy creatures that took you on wondrous adventures. I remember the delicious tingle of solving mysteries, and the wild elation of discovery. I remember the love of good books and fun TV shows with heroes who won all the time, and hot chocolate on cold winter eves, and the healing magic of Saturday morning cartoons.
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+1 # Alex 2011-06-25 13:00
Part 2: I remember childhood fondly, despite poverty and single parent, and the occasional racial barrier. Kids are supposed to have a safe haven, where they can go to hide and wonder and dream about infinite possibilities. That's so when they grow up they can believe in something other than hate, greed, indifference, intolerance, and all the other mind sets that try to claim us in our so called maturing years.
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+1 # Alex 2011-06-25 13:01
Part 3: I work with kids all the time, from 6 to 16, and beyond. As I try to help them envision a future they can shape, they remind me that jade (aka jaded) is a lovely shade of green, not an enviable lifestyle. Children's books rock, because kids should!
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-06-25 13:22
Holy Kid Lit! That's the first 3-part comment the blog has ever received. And I love the thought that some of the rosy views of life you get from children's books stay with you as you "mature." Thanks for reminding me.
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0 # Gary Poole 2011-06-25 15:35
When I was a young tike, I went straight to comic strips and Popeye was my favorite. I leapfrogged over the warm and fuzzy books and went straight to Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn. Then to Robert Benchley who turned me into the totally silly person I am today. I was hot for Dorothy Parker, too. Okay, so I was a young curmudgeon! I discovered that, even though mankind was corrupt and warlike, making fun of it was, well, a lot more fun. As Oscar Wilde said, "Life is too important to be taken seriously."
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-06-25 16:00
That's more or less what the Misanthrope's friend was saying, too. Personally, I put a high value on enjoying life, and try not to focus on how inhuman humans can be.
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0 # Susan Spain 2011-11-17 18:04
My faves were equally as idealistic-- The Enchanted Egg and A Fly Went By. In one there was magic, in the other, a reasonable explanation for everyone's fear (and a peaceful resolution, once everyone understood). Children need to believe in these dreams. Let's keep allowing them their comforts, even as we know they'll all collapse one day.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-11-17 18:26
Hi, Susan: Thanks for your comment, and I couldn't agree more. Tuffy (or Scruffy) was basically a Little Engine That Could on water, and I've often told myself than "I know I can" when the evidence was going in the opposite direction. I'm grateful for all the children's book I read, wrote, edited and published.
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0 # Rena Jones 2011-12-05 10:45
Interesting concept, except when you add fairy tales and nursery rhymes into the scenario. Many of them did not have happy endings.

My favorite book was The Sheep of the Lal Bagh, written in 1967. It was about a little sheep in India who worked as the "lawn mower" for a public park. It does have a happy ending, but it's not without its problems. It gets very political and the mayor decides to fire the sheep and tax the people so he can buy a real lawn mower. That backfires and no one comes to the park anymore. Eventually, the sheep gets to come back, but only gets to work on holidays and special occasions.
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0 # Pat Fortunato 2011-12-05 20:50
Amazing. The sheep and the mayor worked out a compromise. Talk about an interesting concept! We should tell our congress people about this .. .
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Friday the 13th 
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I bought a lottery ticket 
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Reread
 
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WENT FISHING!

Well, eating fish anyway.
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I'm All Right, Jack:
"Jack" is not just all right, it's totally delightful and fresh as a daisy after all these years (made in 1959), with Sellers, although not technically the lead, giving the brilliant performance that launched him as an international star. He plays an all-too-zealous union leader and father of a blonde bombshell who falls for Stanley, the British Upper Class Twit played, also to perfection, by Ian Carmichael, who you might remember from the Lord Peter Wimsey series. The makeout scenes between the the Twit and the Bombshell are priceless. But what is Stanley doing in this working class atmosphere anyway? Working. And too well at that. Forced by financial circumstances too dreary to discuss, he gets a job in his uncle's factory and messes things up for the other workers by, well, working, and thus making his fellow employees look bad. The film takes a big shot at unions — but also at management: they are manipulating white-collar thieves who'll do anything for a buck. Or a pound. Except for the ones, like Major Hitchcock, played by Terry Thomas, who are just plain lazy and inept. Needless to say, Stanley foils everybody's plans, labor and management alike, to my great joy and delight. Oh, and on top of everything else, Margaret Rutherford plays dotty dowager Aunt Dolly. Delicious!

 The Big Lebowski:
What can you say that hasn't been said before: brilliant, inspired, with some of the most memorable lines ever to come out of a movie, the most quoted being "The Dude abides." Oh yes. For anyone who hasn't yet seen the film, and it's now out in a special Blu-Ray edition if that floats your bowling ball. The Dude in question,  played to perfection by Jeff Bridges, is an out-of-work pothead who is roughed up and has his rug destroyed by some thugs mistaking him for another, bigger, Lebowski. The Dude is really upset about this because, man, "that rug really tied the room together," which The Dude says with all seriousness and not a trace of irony, a great comic touch considering the condition his condition is in.  Oh, and besides "Just Dropped In," all the music is perfect for the film. The plot, according to Wikipedia, which has been known to be wrong, is "loosely based on Raymond chandler's novel, The Big Sleep." Could be. But who cares. It involves a bowling competition, "the occasional acid flashback," a trophy wife, a group of German nihilists, a kidnapping gone awry, a mad millionaire and his lackey, in another great performance by Philip Seymour Hoffman. Actually, they're all great performances. Never a fan of John Goodman before or since, he is brilliant in this film. And so are John Turturro, overacting his little heart out, Steve Buscemi in a nerdy, needy role that makes you marvel at his star turn in Boardwalk Empire, and even the actors in the smaller parts, especially Julianne Moore and Sam Elliott. Elliott plays The Stranger (God? Everyman? The part of us that roots for the bad boy?) who elicits from Bridges the immortal words, "The Dude abides." Which prompts The Stranger to comment to the audience: "Don't know about you but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' 'er easy for all us sinners. Shoosh. I sure hope he makes the finals." We'll never know about the bowling trophy because there's never been a sequel to this 1998 film by the great Coen Brothers, and I hope there never will be. It just abides, as all great films do.

Prince of the City:
Okay, the criticisms of this movie are not totally unfounded: it's too long, and Treat Williams may have overacted a bit, although I found him so deliciously charming I couldn't care less, and there's one part concerning the Jerry Orbach character I just didn't understand. But get over it, The New Yorker, this is one powerful movie. And yes, Dog Day Afternoon it isn't, but what it? The DVD has a great special feature with Williams (I so want to call him Treat) and Sidney (what the hell: I once made a meatloaf sandwich for the man) that explains a lot about filmmaking in general and this movie in particular. Also, Sidney's views on good and evil, and how things are not so black and white as you think. I loved it.

Bad Day At Black Rock:
Recommended on TCM by Robert Osbourne as a film he originally had no interest in seeing, then loved it, and by Alex Baldwin, who pointed out the great actors in the cast, including Lee Marvin, Ernest Brognine and Dean Jagger. Well, after all that, I had to like it, right?  I did. A lot. It was a Good Day On My Couch.
Behind the Scenes Stuff: Spencer Tracey was off drinking and wouldn't commit to the film until the producers (who wanted him desperately) told him that they had Alan Ladd, at which point Tracey grabbed it.  He was perfect for the part, wearing a dark suit and tie the entire time in a western setting,  pulling it off perfectly. Other than that "fashion statement," the film makes a strong case against racism: the hatred of the Japanese during WW2. See it.

Song of The Thin Man:
I usually like these frothy, silly, suave, utter unrealistic films from the 30s and 40s, with William Powell and Myrna Loy as the couple we'd all like to be — if only we had the looks, brains, money, a huge capacity for drinking and a dog like Asta. But this one was a stinker, rather than a stinger, or maybe a sinker, because  it turned out to be the last, not to mention the least, in the series. Watch any of the others four sequels, but not this one: Even the pooch jumped the shark.

The Children's Hour:
It had its moments, and just looking at Audrey Hepburn makes life worth living, but mostly I kept thinking that the play, by Lillian Hellman, was so much better. It's about two young women runing a school for girls, who are accused by a hateful little brat of being (GASP!) lesbians. And although the closest we get in this 1961 production to using that actual term is the word "unnatural," it's enough to ruin their lives.  A young Shirley McClaine is worth seeing in this, and James Garner, and Audrey Hepburn is, well, Audrey Hepburn. The rumor of the love that dare not speak its name is totally untrue — or is it? And I'll say no more, because you should see the movie for yourself, imperfect as it may be, as is Life Itself.

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